The Necessity of Caution Regarding the Traps of Phones and Private Calls
by w3ad5 The Necessity of Caution Regarding the Traps of Phones and Private Calls
A young man spent years chasing after girls, maintaining one “relationship” after another. When he finally wanted to marry, he told a friend: “Find me a family with respectable daughters.” His friend asked, “And what about the ones you used to know?” He replied—listen carefully—“They are not respectable. They are unfit for marriage. If one of them went out with me once, she would go out with others many times!”
Victims of Phones and Calls
My sister, have you heard of the victims of phone calls? They are sins and scandals, midnight sighs and groans, imaginary love and false promises—ending in disgrace.
A distressed girl said: A young man phoned our home. He spoke softly; I softened. I hesitated at first to speak with him, but the devil’s steps begin with a single step. Soon I found myself waiting for his calls and his “appointments.” Our talks multiplied, then turned into a so-called love story, promises, and illusions—until one night he asked me to go out with him because, as he claimed, we were going to marry and should “agree on the marriage.” He said: let us meet and see each other before the engagement; if we like each other, fine, and if not, we walk away as if nothing happened.
I refused firmly. He kept insisting, saying it would help marital compatibility. Anxiety consumed me. Should I cast off the robe of modesty and throw away my chastity? Each time he called, he demanded to meet, and I kept making excuses. I began to fear that my father or brother would find out. I feared society’s gaze—and, before all of that, I feared Allah.
The next morning I went to one of my teachers and told her my story in tears. She calmed me and said: It is in your hands; the rope is with you. Beware of such a person. Beware that he strip you of honor and dignity, giving you humiliation and shame in return. Beware of trading Paradise for Hell. Imagine that you ride with him once, then again, and again—what will the end be? Do not be deceived by these vile wolves. Even if they show softness, they are wolves at heart—hearts empty of awareness of the Judge, driven by passion and Satan. What value remains for a girl if her honor and modesty are gone?
The poor girl said: I cried and cried and told my teacher, “You woke me from a deep slumber and a great heedlessness.” She raised her hands to the sky and said: “My Lord, Your pardon; my Lord, Your forbearance and forgiveness, O Most Merciful of the merciful! My Lord, accept my repentance, mend my brokenness, and answer my plea.” May Allah accept her among the returning ones.
A Clear Warning
My sister, do not be naïve. Listen again to that young man who chased girls for years. When marriage came, he said: “Find me a family with respectable daughters.” When asked about the ones he knew, he answered: “They are not respectable; they are unfit for marriage. If one went out with me once, she would go out with others many times!” So beware, dear sister, lest you become prey for such men.
The Way Out
Join the caravans of those who return to Allah. Cut off the path of private calls, hidden chats, and deceptive “promises.” Preserve your modesty and honor. Seek Allah’s help, confide in trustworthy women of knowledge and faith, and keep your family close to protect you. True love is honorable, public, and lawful—through guardians, engagement, and marriage—not through secret voices over a phone in the depths of the night.
